Oct
17
2008
If you saw an ad for a position that was exhausting, caused discomfort, took up most of your time, and involved risk (during pregnancy and childbirth), would you be excited about getting into the job?
When you decide to become a parent, you sign up for all that, as well as all the rewarding and heart-warming moments that make up being a parent. The rewards are huge, and so are the challenges. Preparing ahead of time is wonderful, and I encourage you do that. However, the best preparation in the world does not anticipate the unforeseen developments that come with a new baby.
Whether it’s a temperament or patterns that are not what you were told about in your parenting class, your baby is almost sure to bring you some unexpected challenges. Also, the predictable pieces can still create stress and discomfort for parents. How you handle this will determine the overall quality of your parenting experience.
Lining up excellent support is a wise decision before your baby is born. Knowing that there is experienced and wise support available is important. Call upon it when you need it.
Jul
25
2008
Use the strong empathic connection of an experienced coach to enhance your parenting experience.
Improve your confidence, focus, and energy as a parent.
Learn to develop your own ‘guidance system’.
Contact me now for information by calling 303.776.8100 or sending me an email at babyparentingcoach@gmail.com.
Jul
21
2008
Highly recommended book for all parents:
Why Love Matters: How Affection Shapes a Baby’s Brain
by Sue Gerhardt
A highly readable and lively book about the neuroscience, psychology, and biochemistry behind the shaping of your baby’s nervous system, this book confirms many important correlations between love and brain development. The chapter on ‘Corrosive Cortisol’ alone makes the book worth reading. Secure emotional attachment is vital for a lifetime of mental and emotional health.
Persistent powerlessness (the very nature of babyhood) and unrelieved, chronic stress are clearly identified as causes of damage to mental and physical health in babies. The importance of tender, protective parenting cannot be stressed enough. However, many parents are so stressed themselves that offering this type of parenting is challenging, to say the least.
The link between emotional insecurity and cortisol dysfunction is clearly documented. Tuning in emotionally and being available to your child is vitally important. Creating optimum support for yourself as a parent is a wise and powerful choice. Ensure that you are available to your child on this level.
Please see
my website for details on how I provide coaching by phone and email for busy parents.
Apr
4
2008
Deciding to use parenting as a journey for growth is indeed a wise choice. The many challenges and lessons that come our way in the various stages of parenting create a rich series of opportunities to look at ourselves in new ways.
Our children, even from their very youngest moments, reflect some of our own qualities and trigger some our our most difficult emotions. While most of us experience great joy and wonder looking at our offspring, it isn’t long before some pattern emerges that reminds us of something we haven’t quite worked out ourselves. That is the prime moment for growth, if we choose to use it. That is the opportunity to reflect on what is being triggered in ourselves, where it originates, what purpose it serves in our present lives, and the choice to release and go forward, or not.
No one talks much about the incredible opportunity for self-examination and growth in child-rearing. Maybe it’s because young parents are exhausted, overwhelmed, and accepting what they’ve been told about the realities of parenting. Still, in those instances where it is welcomed, we have the chance to look at who we are, how we are, and what we might want to edit out of our own behaviors.
For expert and experienced support in being the parent you want to be, contact me at 303.776.8100 or email me at babyparentingcoach@gmail.com.
Mar
15
2008
After all the books, all the advice of family and friends, the job of parenting comes down to you and your partner’s choices. Today is an opportunity to look closely at what you most value, where your skills and natural strengths are, along with where you are not necessarily particularly well prepared as a parent.
Even in the very best circumstances, where your own experience being parented was healthy and nurturing, when we stand in our own roles as parents, many challenges appear.
Many of us choose not to repeat all the ways in which we were parented. Inventory needs to be taken, and deciding which familial patterns to continue can be balanced with your own choices for parenting in healthy, loving ways.
As a mentor and guide for the early parenting journey, I offer ongoing support by phone and email. I help you clarify your vision and implement practical strategies.
Personalized parenting education and coaching is a valuable investment in the life of your family.
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