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2010
‘Self Hug’ for Parents and Toddlers
Alan Watts spoke of an “integrity of pattern” when describing the energetic dance in which we all participate. As a fan of his old programs from the 1980′s, I recently heard that phrase and related it to the ‘self hug’ I recommend to parents of toddlers. Restoring our own “integrity of pattern” means re-aligning ourselves with our highest and best intentions, our innermost knowing, and our richest resources. It gives us access to the underlying wisdom that easily becomes obscured in the course of a day (parenting a toddler or not).
As easy as it is to lose sight of this inherent well of knowing we all possess, it’s also simple to restore ourselves to that place and then draw upon it during the course of our day. Mom and Dad engaging in a ‘self hug’ means taking a few moments to let go of immediate stressors, finding a neutral space within, taking a few deep breaths, and visualizing something refreshing and revitalizing. It’s deceptively simple and effective, and also is easy to teach your toddler. I’ve seen 3 year old’s already proficient at using this technique on their own, after practicing with an adult a few times.
The sense of knowing one can modulate one’s own state is a powerful tool to give ourselves and our children. You can make a game out of it, personalize it for your child, and invoke it for yourself as needed. It’s contagious in the best possible meaning of the word! Try it today.
