Your True Power As a Parent

Today as a parent you don’t get to choose your child’s career path, spouse, geographical location, political orientation, favorite charity, or any of a multitude of other discretionary choices of adulthood. So why does it matter so much how you parent? Because there are a whole array of traits and attributes you DO influence as a parent. These are worth identifying and focusing on, since they will provide mutual satisfaction and enrichment for you and your child, as well as the rest of society.

Rather than engage in power struggles over conflicting choices, it’s more effective to focus on modelling a life that reflects your true values. A child who observes, for instance, her parents volunteering in the midst of their busy lives receives an important message – it’s worth it to take time to give your time/services even when you are busy with your own life. There are intangible benefits from such action. Children absorb values quickly. Observing parent’s responses, behaviors, and attitudes is the primary source of a young child’s value system.
Lead by example, and never doubt that your choices affect your child in ways that will be reflected throughout her life. Who you choose to be is the greatest gift and influence you will have on your child’s development.